In Wednesday’s post, titled Couples Poll, Kelly left a comment in which he suggested followup questions to ask. Here they are:
Is/was your relationship open, semi-open, or monogamous? How long did it last?
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I’ll go first, although I’m reluctant to reveal so much of myself. I’m just going to take a deep breath and put it out there. Greg and I have been monogamous for the entire length of our 16-year relationship. Before you all jump on me, please let me say that I’ve been made fully aware on several occasions that we are in a tiny minority within the gay community. I know we are an oddity.
Please don’t shower me with judgmental comments about our monogamy. I feel like we’ve been pushed into a monogamy closet by the gay community and any time I crack the door open and stick my neck out, I get my head bitten off by gay folks who think I am some sort of traitor for not sleeping around. I’ve been bitten more than once, and as a result it’s difficult for me to admit our monogamy publicly like this.
Am I missing out? Hell yes I’m missing out. We both are. We know that. Being monogamous doesn’t mean I don’t want to go out and play. Like every other man on earth, I’m horny 24/7. Who knows what the future may bring. Greg and I have had numerous conversations about this over the years, especially over the last two years. But at this point I’m just not willing to risk anything that may potentially lead to the destruction of our relationship.
That’s my answer. What’s yours?
